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My Morning Meditation...WALK OUT ON FAITH

Walk out on the Water
...Don't be afraid!

Matthew 14:29-33

"Come," he said.
 Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, "Lord, save me!"  Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. "You of little faith," he said, "why did you doubt?" And when they climbed into the boat, the wind died down. Then those who were in the boat worshiped him, saying, "Truly you are the Son of God."

Star's Interpretation:  When Christ told Peter to walk out on the water...he wasn't testing him...he was giving him proof...that with can do anything!  None of us like to fail...but if you've done everything necessary to succeed by preparing...take a chance & try something you didn't think possible.  Look at your life, God has built a bridge to safety over every river, stream and ocean the world presented to you.  If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt. Deep water shouldn't scare you off from fulfilling your purpose...your faith provides you with the ultimate life jacket.   If you believe his promises...then walk out on the water and take his hand.  He's got you. 


Sisterhood Saturday: SHOP TIL YOU DROP!

I'm a huge discount online shopper...and belong to three amazing designer shopping clubs.  For those who are always looking for a bargain...just click on the name for a link to my personal invites to join:


Gilt Groupe provides access, by invitation only, to Men’s, Women’s and Children’s coveted fashion and luxury brands at prices up to 70% off retail. Each sale lasts 36 hours and features hand selected styles from a single designer.


ideeli is the first members-only shopping community in the U.S. We offer limited-time sale events that feature the most sought-after brands in fashion, home and beauty -- at up to 80% off. Membership is by invitation only and there is no fee to join.  New brands are featured each day at up to 80% off. All events start at 11AM EST. Sales last 36 hours, or until items are sold out. We also have weekly giveaways. They have a surprise start time and last 7 hours (in most cases). Our members are notified by email, SMS, facebook and twitter each time a new sale starts.


Rue La La is... an exclusive, invitation-only online destination where Members discover premier-brand, private sale Boutiques, each open for just a brief window of time. Our focus is a well-edited collection of sought-after offerings from the best brand names in the world - combined with helpful service.  Membership is free. It's also invitation-only.

My Morning Meditation...FEAR NOT

The devil can scheme all he wants but God has got your back. 
Fear not! 

Romans 16:20
The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet. 
May the grace of our Lord Jesus be with you.

Star's Interpretation:  Aristotle said “Fear is pain arising from the anticipation of evil.”  I say FEAR can paralyze you if your FAITH is weak.  It's very easy to claim to "trust God" when things are going well; but faith isn't faith until it's ALL you're holding on to.  Evil is all around us and is manifested in those who lack character...but FAITH is deliberate confidence in the character of GOD whose motives we never have to question. Our fear makes us human, but our faith makes us a child of God. Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing. FAITH is not trying to believe something regardless of the evidence; FAITH is daring something regardless of the consequences.  


My Morning Meditation...TEMPER TEMPER

  “Temper gets you into trouble. Pride keeps you there.”

Proverbs 14:17:
   Short-tempered people do foolish things,
      and schemers are hated.

Star's Interpretation:    The worse tempered people you meet are be the ones who are only acting a fool because they know they are wrong from the jump! People who have a short fuse scare me because they usually have an exaggerated reaction to ordinary occurrence. If you fly off the handle when faced with a don't make good decisions and bad decisions can put you in the proverbial trick bag!  A Roman poet wrote:  "one who cannot restrain their anger will wish undone, what their temper and irritation prompted them to do.”  So make it a practice to avoid folk who lead with their MOUTHS instead of their MINDS.  Because as my mother used to say:  "Don't let your mouth get you into trouble that your behind can't get you out of."


My Morning Meditation...KEEP WORKING

You are giving your all and it seems no one cares or even notices. 
Keep working it will pay off.

2 Chronicles 15:7:
But as for you, 
be strong and courageous, 
for your work will be rewarded.

Star's Interpretation: When it feels like you're pushing a big boulder up a steep mountain...all by yourself and you can't see the top...keep pushing; GOD HAS YOUR BACK. Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.   

“If A equals SUCCESS, then the winning formula is A = X + Y & Z, with X being " HARD WORK," Y being "PERSEVERANCE" & Z being "COMMITMENT." Anything worth having is worth working for because the only place where SUCCESS comes before WORK is in the dictionary.  Work joyfully and peacefully, knowing that right thoughts and right efforts will inevitably bring about right results.  Remember we want to work to BECOME, not to ACQUIRE.


My Morning Meditation...A WASTE

A waste of time is trying to reason with a fool. 

Proverbs 23:9:
Don’t waste your breath on fools,
      for they will despise the wisest advice.

Star's Interpretation:  Amen!  No disrespect...but I really can't tolerate ignorant folk who think they know something...and they really don't.   A wise man strives to know more today than yesterday and wants to be better tomorrow than he is is today.  Smart does not always translate into wise because a lot of smart people say some dumb things.  Lesson:  Just because someone is anointed an "expert" doesn't necessarily make them one. Be discerning who you listen to and base your opinion on.  There are well-dressed foolish ideas, just as there are well-dressed fools.    


My Morning Meditation...HAPPINESS

Success is not the key to happiness. 
Happiness is the key to success. 

Psalm 144:15

Yes, joyful are those who live like this!
      Joyful indeed are those whose God is the Lord.

Star's Interpretation (with some help from my prayer partner):  If you're happy with what you are doing, you will be successful.  The person who is born with a talent which is suppose to be used finds their greatest happiness in using it.  But remember, Happiness does not come wrapped in brightly colored packages as a “gift” given to us by others. Happiness comes when we uncover the gifts that lie within us and begin to use them to please God and bless others. Happiness flows from within. It rises up in life’s greatest tragedies when we choose to smile at what we know to be good and lasting, rather than to cry at what temporarily hurts us. Be the person who causes happiness WHEREVER you go; rather than someone who causes happiness WHENEVER you go!  Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections. 

Happiness is a choice. 


My Morning Meditation...SEEING CLEARLY

Guard your eyes. 
What you see effects your whole body.

Luke 11:34
“Your eye is a lamp that provides light for your body. 
When your eye is good, your whole body is filled with light. 
But when it is bad, your body is filled with darkness. 

Star's Interpretation:  What we read, watch and see on a daily basis impacts on our mind, body & spirit; so if it doesn't bring you shouldn't be bringing it in.  A Yiddish proverb says that “the eyes are the mirror of the soul;” and I refuse to allow MY soul to be influenced by YOUR mess.  The goal is to look upon that which is positive, constructive & encouraging rather than negative, critical & harmful. What you SEE influences your present...and will shape your future if you let it.   

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. 
Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”
 -Marcus Aurelius


My Morning Meditation...WINNING

Giving your best effort every-time is winning.

Proverbs 13:4
Lazy people want much but get little,
      but those who work hard will prosper

Star's Interpretation:  You've got to get up every morning with determination if you're going to go to bed with satisfaction.  Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.   We may have no control over the outcome...but we have total control over the effort we put in.  Your greatest triumph may not come from winning. Sometimes you thrive the most when at first you lose. When you go through adversity and decide not to surrender...that is the win. 



Why do women sleep with married men?

I read a great article in "Associated Content" the other day who pointed out that in the movies, the other woman is typically depicted as a young, delusional being who just fell in love with the wrong person. The married man, of course, is the user. He's the great deceiver who disregards his marital vows in the effort to fulfill his deep, sexual lust. Right?

Although these stereotypes are popular, the truth is that the other woman may have a variety of agendas fueling her behavior. Depending on her age, social class and marital status, she might be carousing with another woman's man for several reasons other than love. According to the article, below are the top five.

#1 The sex is hot. Just like a lot of men, many women crave sex. As a result, when some women meet a man that they have an undeniable sexual attraction to, they rush forward and pounce. Although it's not always admitted to, this is one reason why some women just can't let a married man go. They love the sex and, as a result, refuse to end the relationship.

#2 She doesn't think it's hurting anyone. Have you ever heard the saying 'what you don't know won't hurt you?' This is a statement that some females who play the role of the other woman live by. They feel that as long as nobody knows (especially the wife) what they're doing, it's okay. As a result, this woman will never stop seeing the married man until things blow up.

#3 She loves the money. Some women barter sex for money. This exchange is as old as the bible. As a result, if a man has a lot of cash that he's willing to spend on her, the other woman will go for it without any regret. It's not that she want's to hurt anyone or even be the other woman, she just needs help paying her bills.

#4 She believes all men are dogs. You'd think that a woman who thinks so lowly of all men wouldn't wind up in a dirty affair. However, this idea is wrong. Because she thinks all men are dogs, she expects very little from them - including faithfulness. So it seems natural to her that a married man would cheat since that's what all men do anyway. If you ask her about the wife, nine times out of ten she'll tell you about the number of times she's been cheated on by a man. It's her justification for her actions.

#5 She needs to feel powerful. This point is where I believe Monica Lewinsky falls. Sleeping with the President of the United States probably lifted her self-esteem and made her feel powerful. It's a trap women fall into who like to sleep with high-profile men. They get their energy and life from an accomplished man instead of finding other ways to build themselves up. 

Dr. Michelle Golland (licensed Clinical Psychologist) says that some women sleep with married men because some women just do not understand the bond of true sisterhood, and may have trouble with establishing or sustaining authentic female relationships because it is probably hard to find a nice girlfriend who would support their home-wrecking ways.

Dr. Golland says that such a woman may not have ever gotten enough attention from her father, and craves male attention at all costs. The fact that she can get a married man to stray from his wife may also feed her insecure ego, because she inherently feels in competition with other women. Which, in her twisted logic, means that getting him to stray places her as the winner and the wife as the loser. What she has really done, however, is lose big-time -- she has lost her self-respect.

The mistress probably likes the thrill of the hunt and feels her self-esteem boosted at the thought that a man would risk so much to be with her. She may like the drama and illicit experience too. The mistress also feels comfortable being the victim, because ultimately, at least most of the time, she gets lied to and cheated on herself in the end. She winds up crying alone because her romantic life has been a secret, or she simply doesn't have any friends to cry to. It becomes a sad cycle of false hope fueled by desperation and desire, while being led on by a married man who himself obviously has a host of his own issues and demons he hasn't faced.

The high of being with a married man also extends the illusion of the "Romantic Love" experience for such a woman. She is pursued, desired passionately, and the possibility of an amazing future seems almost available. "Almost" is the key word, because the married man is lying to her in order to keep the emotional and sexual attention coming (no pun intended). But 90% of the time, the cheating man knows that even the illusion of "Romantic Love" is just that -- an illusion. It is mostly hot sex and emotional attention with no strings.

Dr. Golland goes on to say, the woman willing to be a mistress was most probably hurt by a man and has real trust issues. By being the one who is cheated with, she has a false belief that she is in control of things, and that at least she isn't the one being "cheated" on.  This woman will choose to believe that he doesn't "love" his wife and he really wants to be with her, so this false situation seems safer to her than being in an authentic, honest relationship with a man who is actually available. 

Dr. Golland agrees with a lot of experts who say the "mistress" mistakes him wanting her body sexually for love.   But she breaks it down by saying "It is not and will not ever be the same. He may love how you make him feel, and love that you allow him to not focus on the reality of his life, but remember you are not actually in his reality -- you are a part of an illusion." This illusion of his will most likely fade due to age or interest, and he will either move onto another newer and hotter illusion, or he may man up and deal with the problems in his "real" relationship with his wife.

I rarely find an expert who I totally agree with...but Dr. Golland's analysis was so on point...I had to pass it on in its entirety!

"Infidelity does not consist in believing or in disbelieving; 
it consists in professing to believe what he does not believe.”

From me to you...Sister to Sister... a guy can't cheat without a co-conspirator.  We as women have to make up our minds that the "sisterhood of women" is a compelling reason to say no when presented with the opportunity to cheat another woman out of the promise of a faithful marriage. Sisters being true to one another, is part of the religion of sisterhood. 

Bottom line is this:  If a man will cheat with you...he will cheat on you.  Get your own man who will love you, honor you and cherish you in the light and the dark.  

My Morning Meditation...CHARACTER & INTEGRITY

A person with character & integrity 
does not have divided loyalties. 

Proverbs 11:20

The Lord detests people with crooked hearts,
      but he delights in those with integrity.

Star's interpretation:  It is lame to try to talk your way out of what you behaved your way into!  Character and integrity is how we are all judged.  Don't give it away by choosing the popular, fashionable or trendy position rather than the ethical, moral & honorable one.   Einstein said “Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character.”  Character forms the basis of who we are...Integrity shows the world we believe the hype about ourselves.


My Morning Meditation...ANXIETY

Don't be over anxious to get to tomorrow. 
Live one full day at a time.

Matthew 6:34:

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, 
for tomorrow will bring its own worries. 
Today’s trouble is enough for today.

Star's Interpretation: There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.  Tough times come to all.  Winston Churchill once said:  "If you're going through hell...keep going."  Worrying won't get you through it.  Faith will.   When I'm anxious, it can overtake my entire plan of action.  So every evening I turn my worries over to God. He's going to be up all night anyway.   Every tomorrow has two handles. We can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith.  I choose faith in a God who has never left me.   


My Morning Meditation...CHOOSE WISELY

We all need to put our own team together. 
Be sure to choose wisely. 

Proverbs 13:20

Walk with the wise and become wise;
      associate with fools and get in trouble.

Star's Interpretation:  You will be judged by the folk you affiliate with.  Associating with the wrong people will bring toxicity and drama to your life.  As the German's say:  “When a dove begins to associate with crows its feathers remain white but its heart grows black.” Water seeks its own level so be honorable yourself if you wish to associate with honorable people.


My Morning Meditation...GET YOUR MIND RIGHT

What you believe about your own potential 
is more important then what anybody else thinks.

Isaiah 50:7:
Because the Sovereign Lord helps me,
      I will not be disgraced.
Therefore, I have set my face like a stone,
      determined to do his will.
And I know that I will not be put to shame.

Star's Interpretation:  I will not allow others to rob me of my blessing by believing them over believing in myself.   People will try to discourage you from succeeding because THEY are don't want to be "left back." I will not allow others to impede my progress.  If you can't hang...keep it moving because I got things to do! I choose to focus on my potential instead of my limitations & my achievements are where my dreams used to be!


My Morning Meditation...CHANGE LANES

When you're on the wrong road 
you can only blame yourself. 
So repent, stop and change lanes.

James 1:13-14 
When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.

Star's Interpretation:  If it is messed've probably messed it up by being disobedient and allowing "self" to be your motivating factor.  But just because you've made mistakes in the past doesn't mean you need to keep on making them.  Nothing frustrates haters more than when you change it up.  Admit you were wrong, figure out what needs to be done to fix it, fix it and do it right the next time. Boo Yow!  “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”    Change is the essence of life. Be wise enough to surrender what you ARE for what you could BECOME.


My Morning Meditation...BE STILL

There may be fighting or distress all around
...but you be still. 

Exodus 14:14
The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.

Star's Interpretation:  Just because it is raining...doesn't mean you have to get wet.  So when you see a storm gathering...protect yourself by taking shelter.   If you live long enough, there is bound to be some pain, surely as there are storms & falling rain; just believe that the one who holds the storms will bring the sun.  The wise man in the storm prays to God, not for safety from danger, but deliverance from fear.  For "you block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.”


My Morning Meditation...LOVE

We too often love things 
and use people, 
when we should be using things 
and loving people. 

Romans 12:10:
Love each other with genuine affection, 
and take delight in honoring each other. 

Star's Interpretation:  Love is the universal language.  But LOVE is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.  When you are lucky enough to have someone love you...honor them by loving them for what they do for your heart...not for your lifestyle, bank account or status.  Remember the four questions that show the value of life:
What is sacred? 
Of what is the spirit made? 
What is worth living for?
What is worth dying for? 
The answer to each is the same. Only love.

"The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”


My Morning Meditation...HOLD YOUR GROUND

During times of testing, 
pray and hold your ground.

James 1:12:

God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. 
Afterward they will receive the crown of life 
that God has promised to those who love him. 

Star's Interpretation:  You will be tested.  Folk will "try"  you for their own purposes.  It is a testament to YOUR character how you handle the test.  Don't be used to further someone else's agenda...especially when that agenda is not meant for good.  Quit thinking that you must halt before the barrier of someone else's negativity. You need not. You can crash through and destroy it by not buying into it.  I used to allow negativity to hurt me,  but I've survived by ignoring it: it dims your light and it's harder each time to turn the power up again.  That's my gift. I let negativity roll off me like water off a duck's back. If it's not positive, I didn't hear it.  


My Morning Meditation...DON'T WASTE TIME

Get away from those who want to waste their time
and yours on foolishness. 

2 Corinthians 6:17

 Therefore, come out from among unbelievers,
      and separate yourselves from them, says the Lord.
   Don’t touch their filthy things,
      and I will welcome you.

Star's interpretation:  When you see that other people are trying to bring you into THEIR, don't the other way.  Misery loves company, but water seeks it's own level.  So make folk come up to your level, never get dragged down to theirs.  “Those who wish to appear wise among fools, among the wise seem foolish.”


My Morning Meditation...HOW YOU DOING?

Have fun, be merry 
and do what you want to do. 
Just be sure all your doings honor God.

1 Corinthians 10:31:
So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, 
do it all for the glory of God. 

Star's Interpretation:  Whatever you do in the dark...will always come to the light, so have fun...but use good judgment.  Reaching your goals and enjoying your success is a lot more fun when you're not ashamed of the behavior that got you there.  Because nothing judges us, reveals us & exposes our weaknesses, more ingeniously than our own good judgment...or the lack thereof.


My Morning Meditation...STICK TO IT

Don't change your course 
and quit when things get rough.

Proverbs 24:16:
The godly may trip seven times, but they will get up again.
      But one disaster is enough to overthrow the wicked.

Star's Interpretation:  God did not promise that the road wouldn't be rocky and rough in some places.  It is our obligation to have faith and when we get thrown for a, get back up and start again.  There is no shame in succeeding the 2nd or 3rd time you try something--The glory is in the success!  “Try and fail, but don't fail to try.”


My Morning Meditation...PROVE IT

Let your actions prove you are good.

Proverbs 28:18:
The blameless will be rescued from harm,
      but the crooked will be suddenly destroyed.

Star's Interpretation:  Talk is cheap.  When people show me who they are...I believe them.  As Bill Maher once said:  “You are what you do. It’s about actions.”


My Morning Meditation...EXPECTATION

With hope head towards your future 
with great expectation. 

Psalms 146:5

But joyful are those who have the God of Israel as their helper,
      whose hope is in the Lord their God.

Star's Interpretation:  When you say a situation or a person is hopeless, you are slamming the door in the face of God. Hope is a desire with an expectation of accomplishment. You may not know where you're going...but when you have God in your absolutely know who will help you get there.  


My Morning Meditation...LISTEN

Daily God will guide you... 
if daily you will listen.

Isaiah 50:4-5:
"The Lord’s Obedient Servant"

   The Sovereign Lord has given me his words of wisdom,
      so that I know how to comfort the weary.
   Morning by morning he wakens me
      and opens my understanding to his will.
   The Sovereign Lord has spoken to me,
      and I have listened.
      I have not rebelled or turned away.

Star's Interpretation:  We often spin our wheels seeking solutions to problems when the answer is staring you right there in the face.    We seek "miracles" as a way out of a situation...when practical thinking is all that is required.  

Did you hear the story of the huge flood  that caused an entire town to be swallowed up by the waters. Well, this very religious man was caught in the flood and he went up to his roof, raised his hands to the heavens and asked God to help him.  Right then his neighbor comes by in a little row boat and says "Come on dude, get in, get in!" The religous man replies, " no I have faith in God, he will grant me a miracle." An hour passes and the Police and Rescue Agencies are now running all over the place trying to get people to safety.  They too saw this same man with his hands stretched to the heavens asking for help and they sent the official rescue boat over to his house where the water was now lapping around his ankles and they say "Come on, quickly, there isn't much time"

To which he says "Nah, it's ok, God will Provide"

So another hour passes and the coast guard is now involved, they are looking for any additional survivors and as they zoom by this same area that has already been checked for survivors, they notice the guy's still there, only the water's up to his waist, almost at the top of the roof.. "Quick" they say, get in the boat, it's going to get worst before it gets better.

"Nah, don't worry - God will Provide"

An hour after that a search and rescue helicopter flies over the area and notices the guy, who must be standing on the peak of the roof now, with only his head and shoulders out of the water. "GRAB THE ROPE!" they cry "IT'S YOUR ONLY HOPE!"

"Don't worry" he replies calmly "God will provide."

So he gets drowned of course. And he goes to heaven, and is a little ticked off with God for drowning him like that, and expresses his concern saying "I had FAITH, I BELIEVED in you - and still you didn't help me"

"HELP YOU?!" God replies "What MORE did you want - I sent you three boats and a helicopter!"

This joke should make us all think about the people who complain about how hard they've got it and how everyone else gets the breaks. 

It's not GETTING the breaks that counts, it's RECOGNIZING them when they come...and seizing the opportunity.  When God sends you a gift.  Just say thank you...and use it to his glory!


My Morning Meditation...PERSONAL INTEGRITY

Remember what you do in the day
and at night reflects on you, 
and your family too. 

Proverbs 10:9:
People with integrity walk safely,
      but those who follow crooked paths will slip and fall. 

Star's Interpretation:    Everyone knows that it takes many years to build a reputation and mere minutes to ruin it.  There are certain places I don't go...and certain people I don't affiliate with; because to do so could put me in a trick bag.  I learned the hard way to keep a firm distance away from any impropriety in my life or situations that could lead me to compromise the integrity that I hold dear.  But I am always more concerned with my character than my reputation, because my character is what I really am, while my reputation is merely what others think I am.  Lesson here:  "The way to gain a good reputation is to try to be what you desire to appear.” 


My Morning Meditation...MIND WHAT YOU SAY

“Who gossips to you, 
will gossip of you”

Ecclesiastes 5:3:
Too much activity gives you restless dreams; 
too many words make you a fool.

Star's Interpretation:    A bunch of folk telling the same lie doesn't make it just makes it a widespread lie.  Be careful of the gossip, rumor and innuendo you help to spread; because no matter what people say...mean-spirited gossip hurts when you're the subject of it.  Remember, “if fifty million people say a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing.”


My Morning Meditation...A TIME FOR EVERYTHING

 When things get choppy & start to change flexible & optimistic. 
Change is going to come.

Ecclesiastes 3:1
 There is a time for everything, 
       and a season for every activity under heaven.

Star's Interpretation:  If you need help adapting to change in your life.  Just remember that in ALL things there is a REASON, a SEASON & a TIME.  No regrets...just thank God for the REASON he presented the challenge, the SEASON of the trial that you overcame and the TIME that someone special entered your life.


My Morning Meditation...BELIEVE!

Fear will keep you from success.  
Don't let it. 
Have faith and believe only.

Matthew 21:21-22:
Then Jesus told them, “I tell you the truth, if you have faith and don’t doubt, you can do things like this and much more. You can even say to this mountain, ‘May you be lifted up and thrown into the sea,’ and it will happen.  You can pray for anything, and if you have faith, you will receive it.”

Star's Interpretation:  Whenever I feel afraid or anxious about anything...all I need to do is pray.  I feel rejuvenated when I pray.  It gives me power over my fear.  So it goes without saying:  No power.  Little prayer...little power.  Much prayer...Much power.  You have the POWER to succeed in anything you do, if only you ask God for his divine guidance through prayer!