"When you have something in your teeth or nose and your guy reaches over with his napkin to get it out... right in the middle of you talking." Now, that's Black Love...
(Feel free to add your own...I have a bunch of couples here hanging with us and we'll be adding all day.)
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For me, Black Love is how our extended familial relationships remain intact, even when the original relationship dissolves. For example, my brother's ex-wife is still considered a part of our family, even though both she and my brother have since remarried. She is still our "sister" and now her new husband is part of the family, too! This whole "village" vibe is unique to black folks, I think...but I could be wrong!
ReplyDeleteEnjoying the blog. Great idea!
Denise
Denise, Who are you telling!
ReplyDeleteIf the new girlfriend of any of my cousins wants to be thought of as "part of our family," she had better not have a problem babysitting the child he has from a previous relationship at our family reunion! That's how we roll...and That's Black Love.
"When your SO shampoos your hair in the shower and knows what direction to brush the conditioner so it doesn't mess up your weave"...Now that's Black Love"
ReplyDeleteWhen she enjoys wearing your underwear... No that is black love and so sexy.
ReplyDeleteActually baby, that's love in any color. That's the great thing about love. It has no "my love is better than your love," superior, look down your nose flavor. Its beauty is that it is just that basic and the common experiences are human experiences, not just ethnic or tribal experience. It doesn't even have a gender-centric experience. It is what it is, and it is so real...
ReplyDeleteI was so inspired by your prayer to Jesus and then I click this post. Isn't the love like Jesus Christ in Corinthians the "real" love, that we ALL can have and share? Why separate any of us because of color? We are all His.
ReplyDeleteI am proud of my heritage as well. I do not think it is better than or more unique than any other ethnicity. I am proud because it is mine. I humbly keep my pride to myself. Love is love, I won't be reading your blog again...it's obviously exclusive - not inclusive.
ReplyDeleteSeaglass...I'm sorry you feel that way. There are so few celebrations of love in the Black community that is celebrated in the media that I decided to do just that. Celebrate what I've seen in my own family and experienced in my own life. It doesn't exclude...it just gives you a window into a place that most people don't even acknowledge exists. We'll miss you.
ReplyDeleteI echo Star's comments, Seaglass. When we say "Black Love," it's not meant to be exclusionary in any sense. It's born from the fact that there are so few examples of "Black Love" in the Black community, in the media etc. So when we see examples of that: Bill & Claire Huxtable, Barrack and Michelle, we rejoice and celebrate it because it's not often that you see that portrayed publicly. It gives us something to look up and aspire to- that's all! It has nothing to do with being prejudiced or lacking in humility or thinking that one's culture is better than the other. Before you jump to conclusions, ask questions first. That's the best way to learn about different cultures.
ReplyDeletey do u keep referring to yourself as esq.?? that's was title for men....white to be exact....y do u want to be identified with/as that??
ReplyDeleteesquire ( ) n. A man or boy who is a member of the gentry in England ranking directly below a knight.