1. Don't backstab other people. You might be saying, I don't do that, but yes you do if you speak ill of someone behind their back. Most of us do it at some time in our life but it is a toxic habit that should be avoided like the plague. You know the old saying: "What goes around comes around." If you gossip about others with someone...you can best believe that same someone will be gossiping about you before the day is done.
2. Don't allow others to talk to you despairingly about other people behind their backs. If someone is trying to perk up your "gossip ears", turn them off. Let them know that you aren't into talking about other people because you have enough in your own life to deal with. Usually, this will stop them from going any further...and it will embarrass them into hushing up and checking themselves!
3. When choosing your friends, choose wisely. Go back to my "dartboard" analogy and see where people actually fit in your life. You don't want to confide in someone that is known to go tell the whole world about everyone else's business. If you do, you will soon be hearing from everyone else about what they heard about you. That's the way it works.
4. If you hear that someone whose friendship you value has been disloyal to you, go to your friend and ask them. First of all, don't assume that something you heard is a fact. Mean-spirited people lie; and Good-meaning people often distort the facts. If this is a valued friend of yours, you will want to get it straightened out as soon as possible so you don't bring what might be unnecessary drama to your own life. Remember that before you confront the person, cool down. You want to convey your dismay over what you heard...but you don't want to damage the friendship if what you heard turns out to be wrong.
5. Sometimes no matter what you do to avoid it, drama will come into your life. But before you make it a part of your life; make sure it is important enough to be upset over. Remember, you only need to be emotionally invested in a situation that you want a continuing emotional investment in.
In order to have a good friend, you must be a good friend. Once you know how to do that, you will go a long way in removing all drama from your life. Remember, “the drama of life begins with a wail and ends with a sigh.”