I'm a control freak. I like to be in charge of all aspects of everything that I'm involved in. That works just fine when it comes to keeping up with my finances, seeking to improve my communication skills or planning the perfect vacation; but it sucks when you are involved in an adult relationship.
I believe that it is every woman's secret desire to want someone in their lives that can take the reins of life and just run with them. Every woman I know really does not want to have to think all the time about everything; yet it is very difficult for this woman who is "free, black & grown" to take the back seat. And I know that I'm not alone. We're so used to fending for ourselves and defending ourselves...when we have a man in our life who is strong enough to take that role in our lives...there is fear that we somehow will lose our power. But, I've been getting better.
Recently, someone in the media was rude me...and someone who cares about me...defended me...and I let him. It felt good.
We we're young girls, we all learn to "dance" at some point at some party. We girls usually start off dancing with each other because boys are too goofy to know what they're doing at that age...so we get used to "leading." As we grow up, boys become our dance partners; but as we mature, hopefully men will take their place.
If you have a man who can dance...then let the brother lead. The song you hear just might be the one you need.
Posted by Star Jones Esq at 7:26 AM