SATISFIED SATURDAY: The Five Love Languages...

• Words of Affirmation
  This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted. These words will also build your mate's self image and confidence.
• Quality Time
  Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.
• Gifts
  It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved.
• Acts of Service
  Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.
• Physical Touch
  Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.

Dr. Gary Chapman really makes you think with the "Five Love Languages." Check out this test to see what language you speak.

SATISFIED SATURDAY: The Morning Funnies

Some stuff about the differences between men and women is just funny...let's pass it on today and laugh at how we keep ourselves "satisfied" in our relationships.

"RELATIONSHIP" MATH

Smart man + smart woman = new romance

Smart man + dumb woman =  new affair

Dumb man + smart woman = new purse

Dumb man + dumb woman = new baby

    

"SHOPPING" MATH

A man will pay $20 for a $10 item he needs.

A woman will pay $10 for a $20 item that she doesn't need. 

    

"BASIC" MATH

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.

A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.

A successful woman is one who can find such a man. 

THE KEY TO HAPPINESS

To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot 

and love him a little.

To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot 

and not try to understand her at all. 

Satisfied Saturday: Falling in Love...Really

“So, fall asleep love, loved by me...for I know love, I am loved by thee.”

-Robert Browning 

Browning sure knows how to make a woman feel like she's the only thing that matters in his world. I know it sounds selfish; but don't we all want to feel like that just once?  Like someone loves, respects and desires us with all their heart and soul to the point they would write "“Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.”  

Don't lie...you will drop your drawers if a man said that to you!

It frustrates a lot of us that most  men don't know how to express their love with the fluid mastery of Robert Browning, but it takes great maturity to realize that in a real loving relationship...he doesn't need to.  Loving words make you go "dancing through the daisies" for a short period of time, but loving actions make you want to take up residence in his heart.

I've grown to the point that my satisfaction in a relationship comes not from the fantasy of love; but from the reality of it.  Fantasy is flower petals on the floor when you arrive home from work,Reality is the dog fed and bathed already so you don't have to.  Fantasy is a fancy dinner at a glamourous restaurant where the whole world can see you...Reality is your man cooking your burger just the way you like it...'cause he knows how you like it. Fantasy is a big wedding...Reality is a strong marriage. Fantasy is buying you the best shoes of the season...Reality is taking you to the best doctor because your breathing doesn't sound right.  

Love, based in fantasy is no longer enough at this age. Real Love, based in reality is now the gold standard. And real love is becoming selflessly concerned about your mate's needs as well your own. Real love requires us to become givers instead of just takers. 

Love is just a word, a label; real love is unexplainable.

Let's put it like this, when we're little girls we all want the crazy fanciful Cinderella story that ends with the Prince at the ball. But as a grown woman who has been through her share of "frogs"...I'm just glad my man knows how to get me home after the "golden chariot" has turned into a pumpkin and the party is over. I like a limo; but there is no satisfaction like sharing a working metro card with the one you love.

SATISFIED SATURDAY: Desire...

Oh My God!

I found this quote this morning and had to stop and say Amen!

“The desire of the man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man.”

Don't you just want to yell out, "Preach, Preacher!"  I have not heard anyone lay out exactly what women really want in such a simple, yet dead on way.  Desire.  That's it.  

Oprah and I talked about it this week on her show as we had both read The New York Times  article on "what women really want" a couple months back.   And again; if you strip away all the science, technology, research, graphs, pharmaceuticals, apparatuses, etc. it will still come down to one word: DESIRE.   

Here's the real skippy...nothing makes a woman walk straighter, stand taller or sway deeper than when our mate looks at us with passion, with feeling, with a "wanting" that says "baby, you look like the last porkchop on the plate!" I'm serious; and any woman who tells you different is straight up lying or still trying to pretend she wants to be all things to herself.  

Well right now, I not trying to be all things.  I just glad I'm "Miss Thang" to him.  

(To read the NY Times Magazine article referenced...just click on NY Times above.  Warning: this article is very intense...and it may give you more information about your sexuality than you think you're ready to handle...but breathe and at least open your mind to the theory.)