…a REASON, a SEASON or a LIFETIME
Girlfriends come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When a woman friend enters your life for a REASON . . . It is usually to meet a need that you have expressed, revealed or communicated. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. At the time they come into your life...they may seem like a godsend, and they are! God sent them to be a part of your life for the reason you need them to be.
But here comes a warning, because, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this girlfriend will end up saying or doing something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand and "cancel" them. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, so their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. They were in your life for a reason, that reason is over...and now it is time to move on.
Then there are the girlfriends that come into your life for a SEASON . . . because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. You may meet them on vacation. They may be a chick that one of your friends brings to the club one night. She may be another bridesmaid in the wedding you're participating in. These ladies bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something that you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
Don't try to make these relationships into something they aren't. This fabulous girl isn't your new "best friend"...she's a girl you had a good time with for a limited amount of time. It doesn't mean that the experience you shared wasn't legit...it was just a wonderful "period" in your life for a season.
Then there are the LIFETIME girlfriend relationships that teach you lifetime lessons...things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
This is the girlfriend who doesn't always agree with you...but she always tells you the truth. She doesn't always take your side...but she always has your back. She doesn't always understand your plan, but she always gets your point. You know she is there for your lifetime, because you can't imagine a time in your life when she wasn't.
That's why it is said that love is blind...but friendship is clairvoyant.
This is dedicated to all the girlfriends who have entered my life...for whatever reason, season or lifetime of experiences that we have shared.
I read something similar to this a while ago...and wanted to make it my own, so I enhanced and gave it the "Star Treatment. Thanks to Michelle Ventor for the original inspiration.)