tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post5425286018781971076..comments2024-01-01T09:25:32.489-05:00Comments on Positively Star: Rihanna & Chris...What I should have learned at EightStar Jones Esqhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07449469040097021166noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-16877325880412391682009-11-28T19:46:42.189-05:002009-11-28T19:46:42.189-05:00Star:
You are contradicting yourself--be careful.
...Star:<br />You are contradicting yourself--be careful.<br /><br />If Tiger gets fed up and hits her back then we have another Chris Brown.<br /><br />It is a crime for someone to assault another.<br />No I don't have a Juris Doctorate, but I do know that in many jursidictions law enforcement will "pick up" the charges.<br /><br />If Tiger hit his wife they wouldn't hesistate to arrest him.<br /><br />We know its a double standard, but we don't have to perpetuate it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-1420990442407364132009-11-28T01:27:47.885-05:002009-11-28T01:27:47.885-05:00Follow Up November 27, 2009 8:33PM
Hmm . . . now ...Follow Up November 27, 2009 8:33PM<br /><br />Hmm . . . now breaking reports are saying that Tiger Wood's INJURIES were caused by his WIFE and NOT the car accident.<br /><br />Men are abused more then you think . . .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-73657608315261088212009-11-27T20:33:07.945-05:002009-11-27T20:33:07.945-05:00I have witnessed abuse as a child. I have been abu...I have witnessed abuse as a child. I have been abused as a child. I have been abused in a "teenage love affair".<br /><br />Today I am a mother of a son and a daughter and I won't tolerate either one of them being abused.<br /><br />I look up to Star sooo much . . . but I think we need to proceed with caution when putting so much weight on the old school addage of boys don't hit girls. Do I believe in it?--yes! But I also believe that girls don't hit boys!<br /><br />None of us know EXACTLY what happened during this unfortunate event; but my gut feeling is that Rihanna wasn't the only victim that day.<br /><br />I have read reports of incidents where witnesses reported that Rihanna actly struck Chris and he responded by restraining her and not hitting back.<br /><br />You see: "Men Don't Tell".<br /><br />There are many men that are abused in relationships each day and a fist from a female can do as much damage as a fist from a male.<br /><br />But is Chris going to say, "she hit me first" and risk the ridicule of his family, friends, and peers? And risk ruining his image/career? NO. He has a better chance recovering from the girl-beater than he does from the "boy that got beat up by a girl".<br /><br />I can think of two situations personally where men stayed in relationships with "women they loved" and suffered SERIOUS injuries under the belief that "boys don't hit girls".<br /><br />I think when need to operate under the notion that people don't hit each other--period!<br /><br />As a mother of a son and a daughter, I'm not going to stand for either one of them being abused or being the abuser.<br /><br />There might not be extensive statistics on men being abused by women but it does happen more often than you think.<br /><br />Again, we don't know what happened if we weren't there--but let the message be balanced: EVERYONE KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-45181522605984024862009-11-10T10:38:04.934-05:002009-11-10T10:38:04.934-05:00It really amazes me how so many women think it is ...It really amazes me how so many women think it is ok for a man to hit on a woman. Of course, if the guy is being attacked I expect him to defend himself, but it is clear that so many women do not understand the physical differences btw men and women and how they should be treated mentally, emotionally and physically by a guy. With every comment I read that suggest that Rhianna MUST have done something to deserve this it is clear that a lot of women do not know the difference between a guy protecting and defending himself and beating a woman up.Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00705939347577799239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-5092607160819206642009-11-09T17:57:02.826-05:002009-11-09T17:57:02.826-05:00Wow...many comments on this post Soror. Good job o...Wow...many comments on this post Soror. Good job on a good post. I agree and somewhat disagree. I think that both kids can learn from this situation and I do think that CB should take responsibility for what he done.<br /><br />As a Christian, I am concerned that we will not give this young brother an opportunity to be forgiven and move on. NO what he did was wrong, but should he pay for it for the rest of his life.....seriously...can WE as people not forgive and not JUDGE....<br /><br />Also, why is it that since Rhianna got beat (which was horrible)get a free pass...can we make sure that SHE understands that SHE does not have a right to put her hands on anyone either.....<br /><br />We as people need to get it together....seriously...Ms. Silky Coilshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01945764635792918968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-36144487145960807562009-11-07T19:49:14.390-05:002009-11-07T19:49:14.390-05:00CHARLENE B. - I'M VERY AGREEABLE WITH YOUR OBS...CHARLENE B. - I'M VERY AGREEABLE WITH YOUR OBSERVATION OF THE CHRIS AND RIHANNA SITUATION. I AM A HEALING VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (PHYSICAL & MENTAL)AND NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK AT THE SITUATION CHRIS BROWN WAS WRONG AND I HOPE AND PRAY LIKE SAID THAT HE GETS COUNCILING AND NEVER PERFORM THAT ACT AGAIN. LIKE YOUR NEPHEW STATED "NO MAN SHOULD HIT A WOMAN!" ALSO, I PRAY THAT RIHANNA CONTINUES TO HEAL AND BE STRONG AND DON'T SETTLE FOR ANY KIND OF ABUSE MENTAL OR PHYSICAL. I SAW PARTIAL OF HER INTERVIEW AND SHE STATED THAT SHE WENT THROUGH PRIOR ABUSE NOT SURE IF IT WAS MENTAL OR PHYSICAL WITH CHRIS. I JUST HOPE THAT SHE BE OBSERVANT OF INSTANT SIGNS WITH HER FUTURE RELATIONSHIP AND GET OUT OF IT BEFORE IT ESCALADES. HOPEFULLY SHE WON'T HAVE THAT PROBLEM. THAT'S WHAT I DID BUT IT WAS A LITTLE TOO LATE! HOWEVER, NOW THAT I'VE GROWN AND MATURED I'M THANKFUL THAT I CAN DETECT THE SIGNS RIGHT AWAY AND MOVE ON! ALSO, THANKFUL NOW THAT I'M IN A BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP AND HOPE RIHANNA FIND'S THE SAME!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-4910596066685915772009-11-07T19:42:09.963-05:002009-11-07T19:42:09.963-05:00I agree that no man should ever have an excuse to ...I agree that no man should ever have an excuse to hit a women, ever, short of her having a life threatening weapon that she's about to use on you or a loved one. However, what's bothering me is the media not asking her the hard question -- did you hit Chris Brown? Do you have a problem with violence and rage? Not to excuse him, AT ALL, but I have a huge problem with the move to a purely victim role, not so coincidentally with the release of a new CD. Especially, when Chris Brown did not disclose any details, but instead took full responsibility. And I ask the same question here that I've asked before: His professional help is court ordered, who is insuring she gets some? Because I believe that she will be in the media sometime in the future for the same reasons, different man.E.Joyce Moorehttp://www.examiner.com/x-26789-Baltimore-Abusive-Relationships-Examinernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-43854785429026696012009-11-07T19:42:02.964-05:002009-11-07T19:42:02.964-05:00I agree with most of your comment. I just need to...I agree with most of your comment. I just need to add to the part that boys don't hit girls, but girls shouldn't hit boys. I can remember as a little girl keep your hands to yourself. If some one hits you, you should hit them back. I really listen to Rihanna last night and I believe they had a jealous relationship. I believe they both were in the wrong and should have ended the relationship before it got to the pictures of her beaten face.Jus relaxnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-8544021243504971152009-11-07T19:39:01.485-05:002009-11-07T19:39:01.485-05:00Hi Star, thank god for common sense! I watched She...Hi Star, thank god for common sense! I watched Sherri Shepherd on the View last week. She purchased tickets for her young relatives (I believe it was a niece) to attend Chris' upcoming concert. She tried explaining her views on forgiveness. I had no patience for her remarks. Bottom line, Chris hit Rhianna and hurt her badly; physically and spiritually. If one purchases a ticket to attend a Chris Brown concert, you are supporting him. Forgivess is fine, but I would never support someone capable of doing what Rhianna described. It broke my heart just to listen to it, considering what each of them experienced in their youth with violence in their homes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-14015804680883812682009-11-07T19:24:14.519-05:002009-11-07T19:24:14.519-05:00Star
I wish your nephew could sit down with Sherr...Star<br /><br />I wish your nephew could sit down with Sherri and Whoopi on the view. So far your 8 yr old nephew and I are the only ones seeing eye to eye on this. Are the of us really the only ones that saw the picture of Rihanna's face? Am I the only one that heard Rihanna say that this caveman monster put her in a headlock, bit her and threw her cell phone out the window as she tried to call for help?! I am dissapointed to see how many people are letting Chris Brown's PR team play them like a deck of cards. If he were truly sorry for his actions, he would have stopped after the first punch. He wouldn't have threatened her and blocked her from calling for help. If we were talking about one black eye or one busted lip then I would understand the forgiveness. Nobody should buy this a-hole's music ever again. Heck, he's lucky he can still dance. There's not too many black uncles, fathers, cousins and brothers that would let their female relative come home bruised and humiliated like that without some bones being broken in half and exposed to daylight. That is the problem in the black community in my opinion. We don't exclude wrongdoers from our society. One quick, fake, half-ass apology and they are welcomed back with open arms. It's a shame when only an 8 yr old boy sees the problem in this behaviour.Laurennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-90325282029349620482009-11-07T19:12:49.834-05:002009-11-07T19:12:49.834-05:00I pray for healing for both. Rihanna to know that ...I pray for healing for both. Rihanna to know that hitting is not love and for Chris to know that hitting solves nothing~Angelia Vernon Menchanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782697902784305887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-75075650004955751702009-11-07T16:48:32.758-05:002009-11-07T16:48:32.758-05:00I find myself torn between the blog and the commen...I find myself torn between the blog and the comments posted. I firmly believe that Chris was wrong in hitting Rhianna! However lets not be so callous to say that we should have the same attitude as Tyson does because Tyson has a little more living and learning to do. You don't simply disown a person because he makes a horrible mistake. Case and point how many of us thought Mike Vick should have an opportunity to play again? How many thinks that Plexico Burress should be allowed to play again? What about Diddy? He had an altercation in a nightclub years ago and yet w still watch his MTV shows and listen to his music right? I agree with Star on the point that I am saddened that Chris and Rihanna have become the poster children for domestic abuse. If we started writing off people because of mistakes that they make (no matter how severe the mistake) none of us would be allowed a secone chance. This comment is not intended to be a pass for Chris nor a pat onthe back. Please understand that Chris was wrong! No and if or buts about it! Let pray that both parties will be healed!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-12188975805394676752009-11-07T15:31:33.778-05:002009-11-07T15:31:33.778-05:00We still don't know the true extent of what ha...We still don't know the true extent of what happened that night or the circumstances surrounding prior incidents. I agree men should not hit women and it is painfully obvious that he beat her that night. It needs to be equally clear that no one should hit. As much as I don't condone hitting, I have no true sympathy for a woman that hits, gets hit back and cries that she is a victim. If you don't want to be hit, don't hit. Of course there are many many women and men who are hit for no reason at all who are victims. But don't pick a fight if you are not ready to fight. Women and Men keep your hands and objects to yourself!YSCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-3093201375383779092009-11-07T15:14:25.903-05:002009-11-07T15:14:25.903-05:00When this story broke I personally took interest a...When this story broke I personally took interest and followed it closely..Two things that were NEVER released were Chris browns mug shot and the 911 tape..You mentioned that you heard it, please could you provide me with the link because as far as I know that was never released to the media which I find really strange..<br />Now onto the subject matter at hand..I applaud you for pointing out all the stats about women but I am baffled as to why you would leave out those stats for men which are much worse..Domestic violence regardless of the sex is wrong and that is what the nation should be discussing not what sex it happens to the most. Prior to this incident it was reported numerous times the rihanna verbally and emotionally abused chris..This was witnessed by so many in public..On the two occasions that were reported by the media where they say Chris was violent were not reported accurately..In the GMA interview when rihanna was asked about the one incident she could not even answer properly and actually contradicted herself..In this incident, rihanna was in an angry fit and she struck chris brown who then put her against the wall and told her to calm down..When the media got a hold of it, it was twisted..Secondly, when the story first broke, TMZ was one of the first sites to say rihanna was hitting chris but when the story got more attention and the photo was sold it changed..the affidavit was then released which I am surprised as lawyer you do not point out that there were missing signatures..Was rihanna not supposed to have signed that?? Going off what the grapevine said being backed up with the initial TMZ reports they say that chris was battered and bruised as well..To this day we have NEVER seen his mug shot..Thirdly, it has been whispered so many times that rihannas injuries and battered face was not ALL due chris to punching her lights out..rihannas own lawyer even said that what chris admitted to and what he did is different..This was her lawyer..Chris and mark also talked about how a lot of information passed around was falsified. A lot you choose to ignore these details and would rather stick to what was passed on as the truth and that is fine..I don’t blame you but I personally don’t believe half of the things I read on blogs! Now what is my point with all this..Just because we saw a photo and chris admitted to assaulting rihanna does not mean he did everything that was reported..I have heard rihanna talk about what happened that night but she contradicted herself so much and left me with more questions than answers..I am not saying what chris did was right but I will not overlook rihannas actions which I believe she is purposefully omitting to fit in the role that was created by the media..Just like Tyson saw what he believes happened to rihanna he deserves to also know and be aware of what she did to chris..I know some will come at me and say she did not deserve that but what I will ask is, what is it that you know for sure she did not deserve..What you saw, what was reported by the media or the real truth..DV is real and Tyson needs to be made aware that it happens to both sexes..If anything, that is what this saga taught me!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-24031438275759319052009-11-07T14:44:44.701-05:002009-11-07T14:44:44.701-05:00Wow! I am simply amazed at how some ppl can think ...Wow! I am simply amazed at how some ppl can think that a women prokes a situation. This may be the case in some instances, but it is not right for him to hit her, or for her to hit him. I grew up watching my father FIGHT my mother as if she were a man. She stayed wth him until he died. That year they would have been married 63yrs! As a teenager my mother sat me down and told me, "never let a man raise his hand to you in anger." I have always remembered that. Unfortunately I grew up to also have a lot of anger, and found myself sabatoging relationships for fear of violence, and fear of just how far my anger would go. I didn't know if I would be able to control it. A day came when I was provoced and I lashed out at the person. During the incident I had hatred in my heart and I wanted that person to die. As I had my hands around his throat the anger built. Then I felt a pressure pulling me by my shoulders off of him, but no one else was around. Would I have killed him? I don't know. I regret doing it. I apologized to him. Though it took me 8mo to do so. It all began because this person disrespected my mother. This person was my brother! I am not saying that just because you grow up seeing violence that you will commit it, but I believe that you are DEFINITELY more prone to being violent. I was on a downward spiral and I knew it. I cried, I prayed, and I became depressed. I was in therapy for 5yrs. Three of those years dealt with my anger. The other 2yrs dealt with the physical, emotional, and sexual abuse I experienced. Now I can say that things have changed for the better for me. IT IS A PROCESS TO HEAL FROM THE ABUSE (witnessing and experiencing). I THANK GOD for allowing me to make it through the hurt and pain. I could have been dead by someone else's hands, or even my own. Abuse is so much more complicated than anyone is admitting to. It's not just because of 1, or 2 things. There is so much more! AND it is just happening too much!!! That's my 2 cents worth! Ok, maybe a quarter's worth. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-11762043669123265592009-11-07T14:34:36.428-05:002009-11-07T14:34:36.428-05:00Excellent way to express it Star!
I believed ev...Excellent way to express it Star! <br /><br />I believed everything Rhianna said in the interview. I think she was still thinking more about protecting Chris' image and being very careful with her words. As oppose to fully expressing like she needed to in order to get past this. She has no one to turn to, typically in these situations you do feel a lone like she said and that can drive a person crazy! <br /><br />In the mind there is a huge battle ground, is it love or is it hate? No she doesn't hate him if she did she could have done way more damage to him than she has, yet in all of her trying to protect him, not hurt him, not hurt his image. When does she get that chance to think about herself so she can heal, so she can be okay?!? It's so sad that Chris could not have just manned up and said "yes you have caught me in a lie Rhianna" he was expecting to lie his way out of it, so he could keep doing the same thing most men do and that is play their women. <br /><br />I've watched the Cosby Show over the years and often ask people whats their favorite episode in terms of humor. Mine is when Theo goes to Cliff for 800 dollars to give to a witchcraft Dr to have the guy that's been admiring Justine to go away. The moral of the story at the end Cliff makes up his on remedy "I will pay more attention to my woman". Now Theo can drull all over other woman all the time and not fully committ to Justine, yet the moment Justine has other interest all of sudden he wants it to stop. To me it was humor at its finest!<br /><br />The same situation with Chris if he were paying attention to what he was calling his woman Rihanna, then none of this would have happen and Rihanna was correct in not dropping the lie he was giving. <br /><br />More importantly, I hope she sees that love looks nothing like her man receiving texts from other woman. If he respects her enough those things would never have to be a part of her thoughts or worries in a real relationship. Not enough women take a stand on not allowing themselves to be mistreated or disrespected in anyway. A good read is Steve Harvey's book 'Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man' it teachs many things about what should accepted as a woman and gives honest take on what men are thinking. When you got a real man you don't have to work at certain things they just natually. Don't get me wrong I wish Chris a healthy and full recovery from this situation.<br /><br />Her anthem song should now be her song 'Take A Bow' <br /><br />For your listening pleasure: http://new.music.yahoo.com/videos/rihanna/take-a-bow--59812819 <br /><br />Or the lyrics for your reading pleasure:<br /><br />Oh, how about a round of applause, yeah<br />A standing ovation<br />Oooooo, yeah<br />Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah<br /><br />You look so dumb right now<br />Standing outside my house<br />Trying to apologize<br />You're so ugly when you cry<br />Please, just cut it out<br /><br />[Chorus]<br />Don't tell me you're sorry cuz you're not<br />Baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught<br />But you put on quite a show<br />You really had me going<br />But now it's time to go<br />Curtain's finally closing<br />That was quite a show<br />Very entertaining<br />But it's over now (But it's over now)<br />Go on and take a bow<br /><br />Grab your clothes and get gone (get gone)<br />You better hurry up <br />Before the sprinklers come on (come on)<br />Talkin' bout' <br />Girl, I love you, you're the one<br />This just looks like a re-run<br />Please, what else is on (on)<br /><br />[Chorus]<br />And don't tell me you're sorry cuz you're not<br />Baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught<br />But you put on quite a show<br />You really had me going<br />But now it's time to go<br />Curtain's finally closing<br />That was quite a show<br />Very entertaining<br />But it's over now<br />Go on and take a bow<br /><br />[Bridge]<br />Oh, and the award for <br />The best lie goes to you<br />For making me believe<br />That you could be faithful to me<br />Let's hear your speech, Oh<br /><br />How about a round of applause<br />A standing ovation<br /><br />But you put on quite a show<br />Really had me going<br />Now it's time to go<br />Curtain's finally closing<br />That was quite a show<br />Very entertaining<br />But it's over now<br />Go on and take a bow<br />But it's over nowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-32332937858637521872009-11-07T14:18:24.948-05:002009-11-07T14:18:24.948-05:00I forgave Chris Brown for his actions, and he will...I forgave Chris Brown for his actions, and he will have to deal with the repercussions of it. I'm just tired of this one-sided discussion on domestic violence when it comes to men on women. There another side. If my niece wants to see him, I will buy her tickets. He's dealing with the public embarrassment and rehabilitation, and I believe he deserves a second chance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-53563960800591976902009-11-07T13:58:11.766-05:002009-11-07T13:58:11.766-05:00Ok now I love Star Jones she is the truth because ...Ok now I love Star Jones she is the truth because I am going to law school as well, but for the first time I have to disagree with her stance. Do not misunderstand me, domestic violence is wrong. However, I have to look at the entire pictures. I saw her face on the pictures leaked, no he should not have left the scene, but I wonder how a man that has never been violent all of a sudden gets characterized as this vicious monster it just does not add up.<br />It is my whole hearted belief that they were in a lover's quarrel, she hit him like alot of women do and it is not acknowledged, and personally Im only going to let someone hit me or push me so many times before I reach my breaking point, and he snapped. Yes men outweigh women, they are stronger, and have more stamina, knowing that women should not put themselves in the position of a man and hit him. My parents always told me that if Im big enough to pass a lick then be big enough to get one. I am saddened at how Rihanna has become the innocent victim.<br />If I hit a man then I have automatically put my self in the position of a man. Men get abused just like women, but nobody wants to address that. I believe it was mutual combat and she got the worst end of the stick. If you don't want to be beaten then keep your hands to yourself. For every woman of power to just hang Chris Brown out to dry is just wrong. Instead of tearing him down they should be talking to him and letting him know if a woman hit you then walk away its toxic and soon you will lose it and be the bad guy.<br />Rihanna talking is not because she is an advocate for domestic violence, she is talking for publicity and because her album is out. They both should have dealt with this privately and not put it in the media. Rihanna should be punished as well.Shaunahttp://www.twitter.com/MsShaunaAllDaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-80447082233901499462009-11-07T13:56:05.541-05:002009-11-07T13:56:05.541-05:00@Mocha "I'm just saying Rihanna played a ...@Mocha "I'm just saying Rihanna played a part in the whole issue and she didn't accept her role at all."<br /><br /><br />Rihanna said she did not hit him when asked the question. She was not an immediate threat to his life. So there's absolutely NO excuse for Chris Brown to have beaten her the way he did. It doesn't matter what she might have been saying in the vehicle..."words" don't cause bruises, bite marks, and bloody lips.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-36770095675274024822009-11-07T13:06:17.152-05:002009-11-07T13:06:17.152-05:00I agree with most of what you wrote. But boys don...I agree with most of what you wrote. But boys dont hit girls is a blanket and sexist statement reminiscent of the notion that women should be the only ones who worry about birth control. The message shouldn't be boys dont hit girls it should be "There is no place in a relationship for violence PERIOD."DivaMomhttp://adventuresofadivamom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-69879711843699340232009-11-07T12:49:17.347-05:002009-11-07T12:49:17.347-05:00Perhaps my values are different than some but, I d...Perhaps my values are different than some but, I don't care how talented a performer Chris Brown *may be*, I do not support criminal behavior. Should I feel that Chris is truly reformed and remorseful, perhaps I will give his music another listen. Thus far, he seems defensive and quietly indignant. The tweets posted by his best friend and performance team do not help his cause. His argument about being "imperfect...a young person who makes mistakes" and being upset with Oprah for not supporting him simply do not sit well with me. Quite ironic that when he was attacked for wearing tight pants on his album cover, he tweeted, "IM 100% COMFORTABLE WIT MY SEXUALITY. IM A GROWN MAN." Which are you, Chris? A "grown man" who hits women or a "young" inexperienced boy who hits women? Grown men know not to hit women, correct? If a 9 year old boy knows not to hit a girl, I find it hard to believe that a 19 year old missed this important life lesson. I don't have it in me to give money to artists who represent values which I abhor. Were Rhianna my sister, I most certainly would not purchase a Chris Brown record in the near term, just as I will NEVER purchase another R. Kelly record. Holding firm to my values carries more weight than a great beat and dance step. If the money and fame continues to roll in uninterrupted [save for the inability to perform a Michael Jackson tribute at the BET awards] what lesson has been learned? Perhaps most importantly, what lesson has been TAUGHT to other young men?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-65695607917242575742009-11-07T12:32:20.293-05:002009-11-07T12:32:20.293-05:00Why do many seem so forgiving of Chris Brown yet a...Why do many seem so forgiving of Chris Brown yet angry at Rhianna...what harm has she done? He gave his side of the story, is it not fair for her to share hers? Some seem to believe that Chris Brown is reformed, afterall, his team did release those 'paparazzi' photos of him putting in his time by picking up trash on the side of the road...right before releasing a new song. Ironic how we have yet to see additional photos of a shirtless Chris Brown performing community service...now that the song and video have been released. Perhaps when he is ready to release his next single more community service 'paparazzi' photos will surface. Sure, both Chris and Rhianna are using the 'nightmare' to plug their careers - but society seems much more forgiving of Chris and quick to find fault with Rhianna. Fine, she did not speak out earlier and is only doing so as her album is soon to be released, Chris took the EXACT same approach. Let's not forget, he only released a much rehearsed apology video a few days before a new song 'leaked' to the web. Rhianna has every right to tell as much (or as little) as she pleases about the night in question. She was abused...talking is therapeutic, is it not?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-58919158371497610232009-11-07T11:58:27.885-05:002009-11-07T11:58:27.885-05:00Tyson and Star, Thank you. No matter what the circ...Tyson and Star, Thank you. No matter what the circumstances, men should never hit women. It pains me to hear, 'BUT, if a woman hits a man a man can only take so much.' I agree, women should not hit or antagonize men BUT if she does, the man needs to walk away, restrain her or call the police. MEN NEVER have a valid excuse to HIT WOMEN. I am befuddled when hearing people proclaim, 'Rhianna hit and abused Chris, therefore, his subsequent attack was somewhat warranted.' Men are obvisouly stronger, hence, the battle would be akin to a 30 year old attacking a 10 year old...nonsensical. I don't care whether Rhianna attacked Chris first, clearly, the only one left battered and bruised was Rhianna. Even the sport of boxing has sense enough not to pair light weights with heavy weights in matches. Women need to stop blaming women when abused by men. If Rhianna hit or bit Chris, he should have restrained her and called the police. Men need to be more cognizant of their power and learn the act of CONTROL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-20785846318595970032009-11-07T11:19:19.518-05:002009-11-07T11:19:19.518-05:00I appreciate your tendency to see both sides of th...I appreciate your tendency to see both sides of this issue, and I agree with you, CB deserves his shot at learning and recovering from this. The thing is, he was in control on that night last February and made some decisions that I'm confident he regrets. Now 9 months later, he cannot control how, when and what resources Rihanna decides to use to aid in her own RECOVERY. We must remember how very young they both are, how difficult and hurtful this was and allow them both to GROW, and if necessary, share how this incident has aided in that growth.<br /><br />I respect the position she took last night and appreciated her candor. They both will learn from this. Why? Because we ALWAYS remember pain...and the source of it, on that, men and women are consistent.Jeanie Weemsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2154485778854002483.post-14606592511872808482009-11-07T11:04:00.507-05:002009-11-07T11:04:00.507-05:00Star is on point here. For all the people wanting ...Star is on point here. For all the people wanting to further bring Rihanna down, I pray for you. If she was so evil and battering him. He should have dumped her long before he decided to beat her up. He obviously had other women he was seeing. He could have gone to be with them. Your attempts to blame Rihanna for CHRIS' behavior are really sad. It is why the girls in our community think they are worth little more than a child support check and a backhand slap. Please do better ladies. Rise up and love yourself. God wants better for His children.Gemnoreply@blogger.com