Yesterday I lost a friend...
Let us praise those fathers who by their own account were not always there for their children, but who continue to offer those children, now grown, their love and support. Let us pray for those fathers who have been wounded by the neglect and hostility of their children.
Let us praise those fathers who, despite divorce, have remained in their children's lives. Let us praise those fathers whose children are adopted, and whose love and support has offered healing.
Let us praise those fathers who, as stepfathers, freely choose the obligation of fatherhood and earned their step children's love and respect. Let us praise those fathers who have lost a child to death, and continue to hold the child in their heart.
Let us praise those men who have no children, but cherish the next generation as if they were their own.
Let us praise those men who have "fathered" us in their role as mentors and guides.
Let us praise those men who are about to become fathers; may they openly delight in their children.
And let us praise those fathers who have died, but live on in our memory and whose love continues to nurture us.
Everyone lacks motivation from time to time. Often this lack of motivation is directly related to the way in which you are looking at a specific task you have to accomplish. If you view a task as an inconvenience or as something that you really don't want to do, you will have a difficult time getting motivated to accomplish that task. The truth of the matter is that all of us must do some things of have some experiences that are either an inconvenience or something that we really don't want to be bothered with. So how do you get motivated to meet those challenges when you feel unmotivated to accomplish them?
First, let us look at what motivation is. The dictionary definition of motivation is "the general desire or willingness of someone to do something." It clearly implies that motivation comes from within. Inspiration is a self-generated force that motivates you to action. Inspiration comes entirely from within you. It is the result of having the desire and the feeling of excitement about any task you might need to face, whether or not that task is something you really want to do.
Moreover, inspiration becomes a genuine choice you make by the way you view a task. If you have the attitude of "I have to do this because I was told to do it" you will be less inspired to accomplish it than if you were to think, "I want to do it because that's what I want to do." The way you think about a task, your attitude toward it, will affect your inspiration, and therefore your motivation.
Inspiration is not just some divine gift bestowed upon certain people from the heavens. Inspiration is a gift we all possess, regardless of our religious beliefs; although it has been found that your beliefs do affect your inspiration. But the secret to inspiration is to be found in switching how you think about the task at hand. Again, if you think about the task along the line of something "I have to do" you will be less inspired to accomplish it and will generally just go through the motions to accomplish it, with very little, if any, internal gratification.
An important note to make here is that gratification feeds inspiration. Gratification and inspiration are related. Gratification takes place when you have accomplished a task and get that feeling of satisfaction within yourself.
Gratification is that sense of wellbeing for a job well done that you experience and it will fuel your inspiration for the next task. In addition, gratification can be internal evidence of your inspiration. Inspiration is also compounded with each success.
Desire is another element of inspiration. Desire stresses strength of feeling and a strong intention toward a goal or aim. Much like gratification, desire is fuel to inspiration. In fact, desire nurtures inspiration. And the more desire you create within yourself toward accomplishing your goals the more inspired you will become, not only toward your goals, but your life in general.
Finding inspiration when you need to get motivated is a matter of knowing the difference between inspiration and motivation, as well as their relationship to each other. As mentioned earlier, motivation can come from both inside and outside of us. External motivation comes in a wide variety of forms, from paying the bills to performing well on the job to get that raise. Inspiration, on the other hand, is strictly internal and comes from conscious decisions and attitudes about a task, the environment, and your life.
Inspiration is not concerned with the external stimulus because inspiration is a higher level of functioning and thought processing that is highly dependent on your attitude and desire to be successful.
Finding inspiration is an important part of getting through each day, regardless of what you hope to get out of it. Here are some tips that can help you find inspiration in your daily life:
- Friends and family. Your friends and family can be a great source of inspiration to you. Talk to them about your worries, fears, hopes, and dreams and listen to their advice and positive thoughts. Often, people and loved ones can give you a fresh perspective on life that leads to new feelings and thoughts of inspiration.
- Music. Music has more power over people than they often realize. Music can be calming and soothing when you listen to your favorite songs or artists you enjoy that have a positive effect on you. Take some time in the car or as you get ready for the day to play music and think about the lyrics or the feeling the music gives you. You might be surprised at the inspiration you find in it.
- Nature. There's a reason people take walks along the beach or drives through the country when they need to think-nature has a great effect on people and is so inspirational it has been the source behind many poems and songs by great artists. As you look for inspiration in the every day, stop to observe the beauty and calm of the world around you.
- Books. Whether they are inspirational books or religious texts like the Bible, many people turn to books for inspiration. Memorize your favorite passages or phrases from books you come across and turn to them when you need inspiration.
- Art. Art is also inspirational and can be found all over the place in everyday life, not just in museums. Look for inspiration in your children's pictures, book illustrations, or other forms of artwork.
- Children. Children are all around, but few people tend to turn to kids for inspiration. Yet you can learn a lot and be inspired in the simple things children do. Try and look at children with a different outlook and see how their childlike love and trust can be inspirational to you.
- Meditation. You can find inspiration in the every day simply by keeping your mind in tune. This is difficult if you are consistently stressed out or frazzled, so take some time to meditate during the day. This can be getting up a few minutes early to be alone with your thoughts, taking a bubble bath, or going for a walk on your lunch break.
- Daily activities. You'd be surprised to know the simple, every day places you can find inspiration. This is especially true during times where you are alone with your thoughts; for example, in the shower, driving in your car, or working out.
1. Don't backstab other people. You might be saying, I don't do that, but yes you do if you speak ill of someone behind their back. Most of us do it at some time in our life but it is a toxic habit that should be avoided like the plague. You know the old saying: "What goes around comes around." If you gossip about others with someone...you can best believe that same someone will be gossiping about you before the day is done.
2. Don't allow others to talk to you despairingly about other people behind their backs. If someone is trying to perk up your "gossip ears", turn them off. Let them know that you aren't into talking about other people because you have enough in your own life to deal with. Usually, this will stop them from going any further...and it will embarrass them into hushing up and checking themselves!
3. When choosing your friends, choose wisely. Go back to my "dartboard" analogy and see where people actually fit in your life. You don't want to confide in someone that is known to go tell the whole world about everyone else's business. If you do, you will soon be hearing from everyone else about what they heard about you. That's the way it works.
4. If you hear that someone whose friendship you value has been disloyal to you, go to your friend and ask them. First of all, don't assume that something you heard is a fact. Mean-spirited people lie; and Good-meaning people often distort the facts. If this is a valued friend of yours, you will want to get it straightened out as soon as possible so you don't bring what might be unnecessary drama to your own life. Remember that before you confront the person, cool down. You want to convey your dismay over what you heard...but you don't want to damage the friendship if what you heard turns out to be wrong.
5. Sometimes no matter what you do to avoid it, drama will come into your life. But before you make it a part of your life; make sure it is important enough to be upset over. Remember, you only need to be emotionally invested in a situation that you want a continuing emotional investment in.
In order to have a good friend, you must be a good friend. Once you know how to do that, you will go a long way in removing all drama from your life. Remember, “the drama of life begins with a wail and ends with a sigh.”
"If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us.”
Take stock of your life and improve your financial future by Recycling Your Old Gadgets for Cash.
Take a healthy approach to life by Changing Your Toothbrush More Often.
Challenge yourself to think in new ways by Going Back to School for New Skills.
Better the world around you by Volunteering to Help Those Hit By The Recession.
Travel, read, cook...and don't forget to have fun by Teaching Your Kids To Cook.
I praise You that more and more each day, I am becoming more confident about who I am in You -- and I praise You that the kingdom You are establishing right now on this earth cannot be shaken. My heart is flooded with joy knowing that Your surrendered ones are being used in mighty ways right now, and that Your strength and power is being made available to each and every one of them.
I ask that you bless us with anger at injustice, oppression and exploitation of people so that we will work for justice, equality and peace.
I ask that you bless us with tears to shed for those who suffer from pain, rejection, starvation and war, so that we will reach out our hand to comfort them and change their pain into joy.
And I ask that you bless us with the foolishness to think that we can make a difference in the world, so that we will do the things which others tell us cannot be done.
Years ago when i was having difficulty evaluating true relationships, my friend and pastor Dr. A.R Bernard (Christian Cultural Center) and I had a conversation and he shared a concept that I found to be both brilliant and illuminating.
Over the years, I've refined it just a bit...and given it the "star treatment" and I now call it "The Dartboard Theory."
Try to think of yourself as a dart board. You're the center of that board---and thus, the tiniest circle. It's the center that everyone tries to reach when you are playing darts. When you hit it…you get the greatest number of points.
Notice that the center circle doesn't hold much space. If too many people converge on that tiny circle, it becomes obliterated...in other words, you lose yourself. Notice, that the concentric circles all get larger as they get away from the center. The farther away from the center, the more room in the circle.
Ask yourself...how are the "circles" of my life arranged...and is everyone in the correct circle?
Here are my thoughts.
The circle closest to you is for the people I call your "INTIMATES"...the people you love and who love you... Unconditionally. The people who if you lost everything you had in a hurricane, would drive to the border of your state, wait sixteen hours until you got there and then take you to their home for a long as you needed to stay. These are the people who you would trust to raise your children if something happened to you. Ask those questions and I'll bet the circle is smaller than you thought.
The next circle is a little bigger, that's for your "CONFIDANTS"...the people you trust with your secrets and you can turn to in the time of trouble. If your guy is "acting up," these are the people you call to vent to about how you are "done with his butt"...and when you forgive him 2 days later...these are the people who pretend you never told them anything and go bowling with ya'll on Friday like nothing every happened...because they have your back.
The next circle is for your "FRIENDS AND FAMILY." They belong to you and you belong to them...for better or for worse. You actually adore them, you never forget their birthday and for the ones who aren't your actual family; you refer to them as your "sister,", "cousin", or "auntie"...when they really aren't...but they really are. But sometimes...arms length is called for; if you know what I mean...'cause "Uncle Leroy" is a trip.
The next circle is bigger because this one contains all your "ASSOCIATES." You admire these people and feel fondness for them in your business or personal life...they stay late at work to help you with your projects, you both test new ideas on each other, you're glad to see them when you're out at events and you always promise to hang out "socially", but yet...you rarely do. And neither one of you "trips" because you both know exactly who you are to each other.
Finally, the circle that is farthest away from you, but in truth, is the largest group of people in our lives...these are our "ACQUAINTANCES." Some you wish you knew better; some you vaguely distrust but need; some you just think are interesting. You only have to ask yourself one question to see who belongs in this circle: whom do you often like, sometimes need, but really wouldn't miss for a minute if you never saw them again as long as you live?
Don't get me wrong, all my relationships add to my life. They are at times amusing, interesting, helpful and very much a part of the joy of my life------but I now know, everyone is not FIRST- CIRCLE- IMPORTANT. In my life, they’re finally in their correct circle.
When you start making yourself important, you’ve got to be clear about priorities. I think too often we put people in a circle that they don't belong in.
It is our job to arrange our circles so that the most real relationships remain special. Because on the real...everyone needs to earn their position on your dart board of your life.
- I asked a question about a group that I referred to as "so-called celeb bloggers." If you aren't one ("so-called" or a "celeb blogger")...clearly I wasn't talking about you.
- I stated that "a lot" of them follow me." Them refers back to "so-called celeb bloggers," "a lot" is defined by most dictionaries as "many...but not all."
- I stated that I found the "nasty stuff" that they (referring back again to "so-called celeb bloggers") say about people they don't know is "unfathomable," which in this context I meant as "mystifying."
- I then asked what was their motivation (for their tactics, strategy, behavior, game plan, conduct, actions, etc.) for being "mean?"
- I used several examples of people I had seen nasty or mean things written about by "so-called celeb bloggers."
- After reading other responses from several followers, I referred to the phenomenon that I questioned as "hatoration" and stated the opinion that it was an illness that needed to be "excised," which is defined as "cut out."
- I then clarified why I even asked the question from the beginning as being for my own "edification," which is defined as "the instruction or improvement of a person morally or intellectually."
- I stated that I love the concept of journalism and information...(which clearly re-iterated that I was not addressing anyone that engaged in either of these legitimate disciplines because they are both based in "hard work."
- I expressed the opinion that there was a new phenomenon of simply inventing stories or regurgitating invented stories. And finally,
- I stated that two of the people that I had the privilege of working with in the past had specific requirements when it came to the business of journalism.